How do you define yourself? Are you constantly looking to other people to tell you who you are? I’m telling you that it’s okay to make your own choices and come into your own at your own pace! In today’s society, the media is so controlling about how men and women should view themselves. I’m tired of it. You don’t have to define yourself by material things, the next trend, or what other people think you should be. It’s okay to be yourself, no matter what that means.
You might be a son, daughter, friend, worker, or what have you. You’re connected to people and the relationships you have with them, but that doesn’t mean you should get lost in those definitions. You are whatever you want to be: a lover, a fight, artist, bad-ass, creator, thinker, beautiful, smart, daring, eccentric. There are so many words you can use, but a label is not what matters.
Don’t get bogged down by the stereotypes and the person people think you were meant to be. Happiness is much more important. If people think you’re lazy, let them think that. They may not know your whole story, the kids you have to care for, the two jobs you’re working at, or crazy homework schedule that keeps you at home. There are so many different versions of you out there, but only you know the right one.
Everyone has their perceptions about who you are and who they think you should be. You show a side of you to a friend that you would never show to an employer. You play a part that you think is appropriate for the situation, and sometimes it’s not the true you. Make sure you never lose that true self, and always remind yourself that you have choices. If you don’t feel right in a job, quit. If your friendship is toxic, leave. You don’t have to let other people make decisions for you or seek their approval.
Yes, sometimes these things are necessary to forge relationships and make big life decisions. Other people’s input is important, but if you solely rely on it, your true self will become lost. Don’t follow all the latest trends unless you want to. Don’t boycott something your favourite celebrity doesn’t like unless you want to. There are so many things out there influencing you, and you might get confused about who you really are.
This is just a reminder to be mindful of the environment around you. Which people are a positive influence in your life? Who’s trying to change who you are? What media outlets are tainting you? Make choices that make you happy and that are best for you. Find the balance that works for you so you’re not becoming the person you hate while also pushing your loved ones away. Live a life that you’re proud of and always remind yourself who you are.